One of the most important aspect of a successful relationship is communication. Lack of communication can result to misunderstanding, mistrust, doubts or can even lead to separation. A long distance relationship are  even more difficult to maintain. Though some long-distance relationships certainly succeeded but they require careful navigation from the people involved to steer trough the obstacles brought by on geography.

Being in a long distance relationship  for almost three years already, our means of communication is our telephone and computers. Without this two things we didn't know if these relationship worked out. And of course, trust and hold together the love that we feel with each other, long distance relationship can and do work eventually. 

Before we have a computer, our communication is just merely on our mobile phone.  Mig33 mobile messenger, nimbuzz messenger, celicity sms, yahoo mobile, ebuddy are our means of communication. Thus, I cannot leave without mobile phone on my side. 

These are the phones that I love so dearly, the mobile phones has been part of my everyday routine. Though the Nokia n70 is not working anymore but I still keep it because these phone has a lovely meaning in my life. I met my fiancee through with these phone. Nothing special as such, love to have it and can reminisce the memories every time I look at it. The small blue nokia, was given by a friend last 2005 during my birthday here. It wasn't a new phone when she gave it to me but the thought matters most. Even she is in Canada now, but our friendship remains. These phone reminded me of how lucky I am chosen as one of her friends. I met her when I was three months here, since then we became good friends. The phone still working, and I'm still using it as my roaming phone line.

These is my project I bought after four years here in Israel. My means of communication to my parents, my brothers and sisters, and my friends. I bought it in second hand too. My friends has been telling me to sell it and have a new one, but I can't because the thought of letting go this thing is painful for me. It is literally eight years old and even I have difficulty using this laptop, I still  love it and no matter what, I will keep it. I bought a notebook though!

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Olalala, time goes so fast, so quickly, but I want more, more fast and quick.. any idea why? Seven weeks and five days to go I can see again my family after eight years here in Israel. And of course, excited to meet this person behind this blog "Love is in the Air"

And because it's Thursday, once again it's time for Nostalgia..Hehehe! Down my memory lane, a continuation of my entry last week as everyone said "bitin daw sila" lol! So here it is guys!

When the time I saw his username "yama_kasannagi" not knowing that he is one of the founder of the group. My heart, beat so fast .. lol (na totoo yan)why? because I enjoyed buffing him in the chat room using other username too. So, at that night we ended up chatting privately. Then the next day a friend of him who happened to be my friend too, was telling me " ano ginawa mo kay yama? huh , I didn't do anything to him. Somehow, I thought my charm works. (wink). He asked my number from his friend that I used to chatted with. He thought that I'm working in Jeddah and we could meet in the church where he used to attend church activities. So, his friend said " Are you dreaming?why you ask her number? Amber (that was my username) is working in Israel and there is no way you can call her?" He was shocked then, (as to speak) and told his friend "charmie is in Israel not amber" Hahhaha! (charmie was my username when he kicked me) and he didn't know that "charmie and amber" are the same person. Either way, I never knew na di pala niya alam(kakaloka mga kapatid). His friend laughed at him, he was embarrassed (as to speak) and didn't chat me for a few days. 

One day, he sent me a message saying "hello , how are you?can we talk?", Said, yes why not? then he started confessing and sharing me about his family. At first, I cannot believe if he was telling me the truth. But I can feel his sincerity. We became good  friends before he courted me. We used to send romantic songs, laughed his jokes and had fun his good sense of humor. Sometimes we ended up talking til 4 o'clock in the morning. Hence, I believe that this man is sincere with his feelings and I started to consider of what I felt towards him. We  both agreed to put our relationship ( in the air)  into a serious one. He communicated my parents first before I phone his mother. I can say, he won the heart of my mother.LOL! 

After two and half years, that happened merely over the internet. He proposed to me.And without hesitation, I'm happy to accept it. 

Hey guys, naloka ba kayo?..!!! Sorry ang korni!Sana di na bitin!:(

That's the end.........This is the first song he sent  me, I found it here in my notes!

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My world just revolve after work by reading novels, magazines or even sometimes if I'm in the mood I write a few lines what comes up on my mind. That was before I became chat addict. ^-^

Back 2006, my friend introduced me these mig33-the world largest mobile first community wherein you can meet new friends, chat and have fun. You can even send free text messages, play games and much more. From that on, I forgot to read my book. Sleep late at night, Oh not at night, I don't even sleep.LOL! I enjoyed chatting with sense or senseless topics. Sometimes, I forgot to eat lunch and dinner. I made few friends and  few offline relationships. I don't know if they are really real or not but as long I enjoyed talking to them I wouldn't mind.

With my fascination in these chat world, I often heard the username "yamashita" pero di ko pa siya na encounter. Ika nga sikat siya sa mga kasamahan kung babae sa work. And one of my workmate wanted him to be her boyfriend. Naalala ko noon, "humanda yan si yamashita, kakaririn ko yan" . "Kakaririn" is our chat term "to intimidate".  I'm just sitting on the side corner and listened to their bluffing because my old lady patient doesn't want to participate to a large group. Then one day, I was in the chatroom, and suddenly when I supposed to send a message, screen appeared " your has been kicked by voltz" So what I did, I sent a private message to that username and said "are you out of your mind?, why you kicked me?." Abah ang sinagot ba naman sa akin is the icon (tongue out)Like he said , bleeh! LOL!  I was so irritated because we were in the middle of an interesting topic inside the chat room. I never knew that username "voltz and yamashita" is the same person until I asked my workmate who is votz. ^-^. Eng-eng din ako kahit 1 year na ako noon sa chat.  Mahilig kasi ako sa private chat. Hahaha!

It was sometime September 2007, one of my male chat friend invited me to managed a chat room. Char, bongga manager na ako!LOL! So, I joined together with a friend too. The chat room was named Pinoy Friends. The three of us ran the chat room so smoothly. We have activities such as Q&A in general knowledge, essays, current events , etc. Anything to provide our chatters to stay, enjoy and have some fun at the same time they can learn a little bit. Until my friend introduced me to his friend who founded a group "Kasannagi Family. The founder used to visit the room from time to time and then he saw how I well managed the room.Char , parang McDonald well managed.lol!Thus, he invited me to join the his "no life group". At first I was hesitant to accept the invitation. Tanong ko pa " what is the mission of your group?" " Are you nice people?" But later on, I joined the group and became an active member. That was the time I saw "yamashita" again using a username "yama_kasannagi" not knowing that he was one of the founder of the group. We chat, we talk, we became friends. Then we both found out we fall to each other.

I spoke to one of my friend this afternoon and the way she's telling me the story about her relationship with her boyfriend,  I can sense that she is not happy. She wanted to give up but she consider a lot of things in their relationship. I can feel that she is confused and asking herself if she will stay or go in that relationship

After talking with her , it reminds my first relationship with my ex-boyfriend. It was difficult and I put myself more crap then I should have. Everybody continually told me to end the relationship, yet this is one of those things an individual needs to learn on their own and figure out for themselves, otherwise, they'll end up for a similar person and doing it all over again. 

There may have good times, in fact there were, he was very kind and generous to me, or else I wouldn't gotten into the relationship in the first place, or it wouldn't be so shard to break up and wouldn't be asking question.

But there was also a lot of bad, which is why it ended?

Time comes I was brave and gave up and  move forward and seek another relationship but before that I gave myself to contemplate a lot of things on what I want to do. I took a break from a relationships and figure out not only on who I was but figure out what I want in my life in the future. 

We are not in the same situation but the more we hold things, the more we get hurt. 

I was very glad that I'm no longer in that relationship anymore.

I was stumble this beautiful  website for ladies that talks about relationships, fashion , beauty, food etc. and I was tempted to take one of their quizzes in relationship, such "Are you ready for marriage?" 

I'm not shocked of  the result for I know that I am totally ready but happy with my answers that give a perfect result.

Finding the right person to settle down with helps you become the person you want to be in life. You have a healthy self-esteem and a good grasp on reality. "You don't have what I call the Jerry Maguire syndrome "says Les Parrott, marriage expert and best selling author of Saving Your Marriage It Starts. "You don't need anyone to complete you. Rather, they complement you"Whether you have found one, or are still on the lookout, you can breath easy. When it come time for wedding bells to chime, you'll set and you'll be radiating pure, honest-t-goodness happiness too.

How old are you with your boyfriend, or husband,? Do you feel smarter than them? Do you feel your more a social person than them, you earned more than them?

I was watching a program yesterday on television about relationship talking about "gaps" mean - age gap, education gap, and social gap. 

These certain gaps can be threaten the respect in a relationship. If there is a big educational gap, you have to be careful Most specially if a woman is more educated , she has to be careful. Because when a woman feels she is smarter than the man she is with, she tends to step over him. Women now didn't put any nonsense things, they earned as higher as a man earned. Women should think first before they start to talk.

A large age gap is another potential red flag. In my experience, if a man is 10 years older, it's usually not a problem. Unless he is vastly more educated or worldly. That's you should be careful too. Some older man are too possessive most especially if their partner is young,attractive and beautiful. But after 10 years, you have to be more cautious. A partner must feel like equals in order to have a healthy relationship. Obviously, if he is way beyond her in life experience and maturity, he might look down on her. 

One woman shared about her insight from an Ancient Jewish philosophy. She is Jewish. I can't remember her name because I focus on the subject they were talking LOL! As she said "kinopya ko pa yon" I almost forgot it happened that "Sara" know it. "Make yourself a mentor, acquire a friend for yourself, and be sure to judge favorably" That was a wonderful advice she gave. And Sarah can relate, the fact that she was married to a very strong man and a doctor by profession for 67 years. 

But what if the woman is older than him? Ann said (sarah daughter) in any way, she looked man is immature, LOL! I was laughing. And Sarah said (taka)a yeddish term in English "really". It is good for a man whose younger than woman, because old man died early than women. Another big laugh I gave to them. It was a fun conversation. Therefore, I conclude it depends how mature the man is. If a woman  2 or 3 years older than him the difference might not be noticed. However, if she is four or five years older than him, he have to be extraordinarily mature in order to be a healthy relationship.Otherwise, woman feels herself she is playing like a mother!(sigh). In my case, I don't know yet, he is younger. Ultimately, we both have respect. If not, it might end up mistreating each other. However, physical touch and attraction is different from online relationship.

Lastly, a large social gap they've talked also threaten a relationship. If a woman or man is wealthy than their partner that is also sometimes is difficult. A woman spoke about her experience having trouble with great guy without big money because she couldn't respect them. She always hope such great guy but she realized she doesn't want to repeat her parents marriage. Of course there are people from upper class who are happily married to lower class. But it does take a lot of work, that was they said. If your considering a partner from a different social class you must do some sober thinking. That means seeing beyond the infatuation and looking at the respect factor. You should start to ask question now. Like, are you willing to put up with different habits. But if your a girl who knows to deal with them that must be easier.  Honestly, it helps to have money.

In my point of view as a single woman olalala... LOL.. The key ingredients of happy and healthy relationship is mutual respect. Whatever the gap is, you both need it, you both deserve it.

Sounds odd for everybody but me and my boyfriend "fiancee plan to settle down by the time we will be there (Philippines). Everything happen merely on the internet but it seems like we are close for each other. read this. Our only lifeline with this relationship is our computer and our phone. Nothing is impossible I think if you both interested and make an effort with the relationship you have. I agree maintaining a long distance relationship is very difficult. Some of my friends like Long Distance Relationship. They said , the less you talk and see each other, the less you have fights and arguments. Is it true? Here are some Do's and Dont's.

Probably, my friends, followers if I have (yes, I did have) hehehe!!! are scared reading with my simple revelation about wedding plans. Why? I hasn't meet the person, and we plan the wedding we wanted to be. With this society or world , I supposed it's not new especially those OFW , like me spending most of their time with their job to earn money while working abroad.  While working they are sneaking around in dating websites to meet the partner of their life. I'm one of them hehehe and if they found their perfect partner they thought , some plane to meet first , and some plans to prepare a wedding and when they'll meet it's ended up in the Altar of Matrimony.. You might like the story of Alex and Ems. 


Going back on our simple plan...


We want only a simple wedding yet elegant and memorable. A fairy tale theme,that match our destiny, with turquoise blue fuchsia pink motif. hmmmm. 


I posted the inspirational board of the motif...

Before, I am officially engaged with him, we've been through a lot of troubles that almost end up our relationship. He did things that made me angry , upset and seems for me it was the end of the world. After confessing me about his age, the relationship wasn't so flowery. Family problems arose from both sides. I always wanted him to listen to me but he wasn't there for me. Perhaps he was tired of listening my own, which the fact he had his own and he cannot shared to me because I have a lot on my plate. I remember just one night he was burst with tears and cried about his problems and I felt guilty myself that I never listen to him. I was so selfish. We let time goes by not talking with each other. I was busy solving my own, and when the time I talked with him I was always being rational. I never understand, and I started doubting all the time with his love for me.


By the time, I was not there for him and was so disturb with my feelings and settling the problems with my family. He found a friend, who could understand him. A friend that he can share his problems. A friend who listen with him. They end to a mutual understanding and I bound to caught all the messages he sent with that girl. And it happened that I know the girl who knew that I am his girlfriend and she tried to be friend with me.I confronted him about the messages and then he was so angry about it. I don't have the right to interfere his private property (its true). He told me, I'm hurting myself dahil kahit san daw sunod ako ng sunod. When I have an instinct I cannot set and do nothing at all. I always do something until I find out what's going on. I had sleepless night, I cannot eat at the same time I was so upset with my family. I used to drink a glass of wine in the night to make me sleep. I cried and my phone bills got bigger just to call him and started crying. I suffered that stupid feelings of mine for 6 weeks and I realized, who he is  He was so lucky to have me. He his ugly, Lol... he has a bad odor , he didn't brush his teeth.. hehehe.. I keep thinking negative thoughts to make me feel better. He don't deserve my tears, my love. It was very had for me to talk with him, which I did and let him choose. I was afraid then but I have to accept the fact. He is not mine. But I was wrong, he was angry with me, and said You know that I will choose you over her. I was so flattered and felt happy but deep inside my heart, GOD give me a sign if he is telling the truth. If he really loves me, then he have to prove it to me. But be hurry and make sure that when he comes back to me I'm still there, otherwise he cannot find me anymore. Just be sure that the person he is going to replace me is more than I could offer with him, without baggage(walang anak). That was the last word I told him and I was contemplating the happy days we shared together over the internet. The plans and the dreams.  I was in the process of recovering and healing the wounds, I received a message from the girl telling me,  "he choose you, you won , just take care of him he is a good man. It was only a game between me and him, I have a child and I am going to get married with the father of my child. I am sincerely sorry, sis and I hope one day you will forgive me. Belated merry Christmas and Happy Ne year"


I don't know what to say, I never replied her until now, and he asked also an apology to me. Telling me he cannot bear to lose me anymore. The relationship is back to normal and officially he both an engagement ring and proposed with me again.


I once a stupid but because I love him so much and the pain is unbearable to lose him, and just one click of my thumb is gone. In relationship I always give chances, second, third but not in major things. I think weather we like it or not , if we fall in love we cannot hold our feelings. It's easy to say (don't let your heart rule your mind, but let you mind rule your heart )than done. On the other hand, we never knew a person until we don't live with them. There are couple who been out together for many years but after they got married finish on the story. There are also known each other for a few months and have a happy ending. Relationship or shall I call it marriage is a matter of luck. It it turn out alright then you must be clever.



I hope I made my right choice and decision with out regrets and hesitation.

I was upset for a few weeks , and I never bother to updates my blogs. I felt I was neglected and deceived. Something wrong with him, the communication wasn't alright for a few weeks and found me very difficult because he couldn't talk to me calmly. Always shouting and ignoring me. I was crying and didn't talk to him for a few days. For me if he is not the right one then perhaps somebody is waiting for me out there. I prepared myself what's going to happen. I sent him an email and let decide what he wants from our relationship then he sent me text message asking sorry from all his nastiness and rudeness. Not talking to him for a long time and let the time goes just like that was not good. They said that if you want to settle quickly what was happen then talk to him as soon as possible to avoid the conflict so long. I saw him online and buzzed him, he got sense to asked an apology again. He broke the silence and ask me to promise that I won't get mad. My heart beats quickly I thought he is married, have another girl friend and got him pregnant. I started crying of what I was thinking but I was wrong. No third party involved just only his age. He lied to me at the very first beginning. He didn't have a courage to tell me the truth co'z he is scared that I might live him if I will find out. He let the relationship works so well and the feeling goes dipper. When I found it out, nothing change, the feelings never change after all but I am confused. I have a lot of question in my mind. He is 5 years younger than me now. Is he willing to stay with me for the rest of my life and look me at 40 years old and he is 35 years old only. Does age really matter or it doesn't matter? Most of my friends told me it doesn't matter as long you love and help each other. As long as your happy together. Could you help me some of my confusion now. I still love him and I want him but how could I explain to my parents, to my siblings. 

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