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Love-do you have a list?

Yes, I used to write notes, list, anything that I can think randomly. Even forward text messages, I copied it as quotes collection and put it in my little notebook.

Do you make list also about love? Like what qualities and standard to the person you want to meet and wanted to be?

Some people do , I supposed we all do, adult, teenagers. And when time to bring it forward, the hard part is trying to translate that list into reality. Most of us over simplify or take things out of context. This is because our list is not always weighed in the same context or in order of importance.  Actually writing a list will give me the opportunity to prioritize what is really important to me.  Then I can strike off what is not so important, or at least their degrees of quality.

On your wish list you should focus on your needs, not always your wants.  We sometimes find our wants to be unrealistic. Focus on your bottom line.  Then narrow those needs down to maybe three or four.  If you have 10 needs and a person only has maybe 8 or 9, you may tend to eliminate that person. Sometimes good qualities can flip over and become bad ones. 



The conclusion: so what if he/she is too short? So what if he/she is maybe chubbier than you wanted?What if he/she is not good looking. What if she/he is not a degree holder.  If you have fun, if your life-styles are similar, if what you need is someone reliable, maybe not necessarily rich, if you need someone who is dependable, and most importantly can make a living, etc, it may be what you thought you wanted, is not what you needed.  If you have fun with a person who may not be everything you wanted, give them a closer look anyway. Who know's?

It is not settling to fall in love with Mr or Ms Good Enough.  Bear it in mind.  Maybe you've eliminated people you shouldn't have eliminated.

It is not Settling to fall in love with Mr or Ms Good Enough.  Bear it in mind.  Maybe you've eliminated people you shouldn't have eliminated.

Not anyone could be as lucky as my lovely lady(employer). She had a handsome, good looking, a doctor by profession, responsible husband.
 

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Budgeted Cost Wedding

During the excitement  of our wedding planning process we sometimes forget that the most important part of marriage, that two people are going to spend together for the rest of their lives after the Ceremony and not the party itself. So in my research to have a terrific wedding yet inexpensive. I found some great tips from friends 

First have to consider where the Ceremony its gonna be? If you are not so fussy or weather you are religious or not, you can have a wedding ceremony at your local church or chapel. Most church can be waived for members of the congregation who are in need and truly want to be joined in Holy Matrimony. 

Second , the reception. Actually, this is my fiancee's idea. If you have big house or yard and if not you can ask from your friends or family and see if you can use it to have your reception at. You can have a buffet which your family helping each other for the preparation. You can set up a sound system and attach an CD player. You can rent cheaper tent  or borrow chairs and table from a baranggay or from the church. Even you pay for it its not the same the cost of the reception venue in the hotels.

And of course, your wedding will not complete without a wedding cake. So, you can make your own wedding cake. If you don't know how to make it, you can ask from you friends or family who know how to make it. I am sure they will not resist to make it for you. Just buy an extra amount of frosting and if you are artistic, you can design whatever you want for your wedding cake.

What I've written is only a gathered ideas from my friends. If you have money, you can have the expensive wedding you want but if you are in the minimum budget you can insert some of these ideas. Remember, what is the most important thing is after the wedding. 


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on our simple plan...

Sounds odd for everybody but me and my boyfriend "fiancee plan to settle down by the time we will be there (Philippines). Everything happen merely on the internet but it seems like we are close for each other. read this. Our only lifeline with this relationship is our computer and our phone. Nothing is impossible I think if you both interested and make an effort with the relationship you have. I agree maintaining a long distance relationship is very difficult. Some of my friends like Long Distance Relationship. They said , the less you talk and see each other, the less you have fights and arguments. Is it true? Here are some Do's and Dont's.

Probably, my friends, followers if I have (yes, I did have) hehehe!!! are scared reading with my simple revelation about wedding plans. Why? I hasn't meet the person, and we plan the wedding we wanted to be. With this society or world , I supposed it's not new especially those OFW , like me spending most of their time with their job to earn money while working abroad.  While working they are sneaking around in dating websites to meet the partner of their life. I'm one of them hehehe and if they found their perfect partner they thought , some plane to meet first , and some plans to prepare a wedding and when they'll meet it's ended up in the Altar of Matrimony.. You might like the story of Alex and Ems. 


Going back on our simple plan...


We want only a simple wedding yet elegant and memorable. A fairy tale theme,that match our destiny, with turquoise blue fuchsia pink motif. hmmmm. 


I posted the inspirational board of the motif...


 














on being here and there...

While I'm working this morning , I came up the thought of my relationship with him. I just can't believe how I put up with this this 2 years LDR like cats and dogs. I don't know if it is normal for a couple when they are far from each other , they always fight with nonsense things? If he is getting mad or upset , he ignores me sometimes it took 3 days before we become friends again and then back to normal. But I can't remember when was the last time he never upset with me. Like this one, blogging is one of my new hobby and he can't barely see me online and he gets upset and mad with me. And when I'm online he is attending somethings, and we didn't talk to each other.

Its preferable to do my way, and let him do with his way. It's difficult to put up specially he is younger than me, I am so pathetic to think about it. It's easier for me if I'm the first one to approach rather than waiting him when he will going to talk with me.

At the end of it all, man is just a man. It's easier to flirt with them, give the best shot to make them cool and give responses of what you want. Even of hectic schedules, we should send them sweet messages like e-card emails, text messages of call them. I usually send text messages and let him know what I am doing, what I feel, and most of the time in the evening we talk in the messenger told him what I am thinking while I am working. Or sometimes, I usually make slides show or browse some vedio music over you tube and post it on his facebook. and send him message that I posted something on his profile. That usually I does..


essential guide to find your own true love

hey guys want to share you this quiz on how do we really tell if he is just not into to you..how to stop wasting time on a DUD( definitely unworkable dude) Just give your boyfriend one point for each of this 16 characteristics he exhibit...

After 19 months of strongly steady.... haven't meet him yet:

  • Eager to see you 1
  • Reluctant to leave you
  • Wants regular consistent contact, asks for dates 1
  • Interested in you and your life 1
  • Wants to be helpful
  • Is verbally and physically affectionate
  • Wants to be romantic and sexual with you 1
  • Texts, emails or calls regularly 1
  • Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date others 1
  • If you are dating other men--willing to hang in there
  • Becoming more attentive and loving over time
  • Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughts 1
  • Becoming more open to sharing his living space 1
  • Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members. 1
  • Saying he loves you 1
  • Saying he wants a future with you 1
TOTAL = 11 - he just may be the one , yeheyyyyy!!!!

Please be really honest with yourself as you rate your guy. When in doubt, ask your closest friends to help you. If your man has a score of 4 or less, it probably indicates that he is just not that into you. If he gets 5-10 points the dude may have possibilities. Eleven (11) or more means he just may be the One. Look for more of these qualities over time to make a clearer assessment.
If your guy has a low score, you do not need to cut him off right away. A guy who really is into you will stay the course and win you.
Bottom line: if you want to find the One, look for a man who provides regular and consistent contact that gets better over time. You should find yourself continually surprised at how he fills your needs to be chosen, appreciated, romanced and celebrated for who you are. Envision this kind of love and choose guys who are that into you.



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