Love is in the Air: July 2009

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Save Your Relationship

Posted on Thursday, July 23, 2009 by charmie

Find Out HowDo you have problems in your relationship? Everybody does, but do not think that a break-up is the solution. There are many ways to save a relationship. Here are some tips:

1. Communication

The best and most important method in a relationship is communication. You need to talk to your partner because it is crucial. Tell him/her exactly what you think, what makes you unhappy; what would you like to change.

2. Learn how to forgive

Forgive your partner's mistakes and admit nobody is perfect - even you make mistakes and nobody makes you pay for them. For a bigger mistake, a break-up is not solving anything. Talk about the reasons what lead to the incident and pass over things that are not so important.

3. Have faith in him/her

In every relationship or marriage, faith is important. If you do not trust the person you live with, then your relationship is worthless. If there are reasons of jealousy or other reasons that can appear to diminish your trust, do not show suspicion.

4. Show your feelings

If you want a good relationship, you need to show your partner what you feel for him/her. Give up the scenario that he/she would love you more if he/she does not know how deep your love is, that his/her intentions are for real, it is the moment to treat this person the same.

5. Offer gifts

Not expensive ones, but symbolic ones, or little surprises. As an example, a mug to use at the office, a frame for your photo. It's easy to show love.

6. Be sincere

Never lie, especially because truth will show up. Every time you think to say a lie, think that nothing good will appear, and when truth is found, he/she will not trust you anymore.

7. Share his/her feelings

If you have a problem, maybe at the office or family related, tell your partner about it and try to find a solution together. Also, invite him/her to share problems with you - everything is easily solved when both of you work on it.

I applied it and it works well.

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echoes of our Hearts

by charmie

Sometimes we close our eyes and just listen to the echoes of our hearts. we all fall in love, and there are times that we love so much, we lose ourselves in our own emotions, and we feel that way more often. we wonder why there are love that grows so warm and there are love that grows cold too. we would start to search for and try to find where love has gone wrong but in the end we find ourselves where we started. We cannot question love, when it has its own reason. Love will always been silent, mysterious and deeply profound.

Many if us believe that love is forever, that love never dies, only to be disillusioned in the end. When we find our hands empty and our hearts longing we mistakenly have looked love as a need to be fulfilled. But love is a gift given to us, we should not hold it in our hands for we may never find the strength to let it go when we decides to leave. we should only embrace its warmth and grow while it lasts and then freely open our arms when its time to say goodbye.

When we fall in love with someone we don't want that feeling to end, for we wanted to be. We pray that love would stay and grow in our hearts but if it doesn't then we should never let our lives taken by it, for life should not end where heartaches begin. There's always a reason why we have to move on, when we have to say goodbye to the feelings we wanted to stay forever. Let us not wave our hands with a heavy heart, for love will have to set it wings free and find a place to where it belongs. We may have lost to the echoes of our hearts,but we will hear that feelings resounding silently forever, then will know that it have never left us for the good that we have become because love will always stay, it will always be there, reminding us that we should be thankful and happy not because we have lost love but because once in our life that feeling leave in our hearts and make us happy.

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Tragedy of Love

by charmie

They say that only time can heal the wounds of a broken heart. That time makes it easier to accept the loss of the people we love.

It is a chain that all of us go through, falling in love, getting hurt, getting hurt and vowing not to love again, promising not to love again and becoming miserable all our lives. It‘s not easy getting up on our feet after a crippling fall but there is no other way but to stand up and move on. Nobody wants to become unhappy all his life. All of us know how love can bring magic into our lives. Have you ever realized how good it felt waking up in the morning knowing that somewhere out there, there’s a person also thinking of you and feels exactly the way you do? Doesn’t it feel good looking forward to being that person and spending memorable moments with him? Love brings joy beyond compare and that warm and sparking glow in each of us. Love brings us to the top of the world where we can conquer just about any obstacle that may come along our way. It is a great feeling love is. There is probably nothing else in this world that can compare to this. There may be many of us who feel that love passed us by and finding someone we can share our life with seems to be such a remote possibility. We watch trains go by as time swiftly drifts away from us. We may be in control of our lives but we felt somewhat helpless in our relationships. There is nothing permanent in this world and not even those we cherished would be with us forever. There is no guarantee that comes with loving. It is always a risk getting involved with someone but it is a risk that we have to take if we want to find real happiness for there is no gain without pain. There is no permanent without commitment and there is no lasting love without constant sacrifice. The tragedy of love is in getting hurt. The tragedy of getting hurt is in not wanting to love again and tragedy of not wanting to love again is in being alone all of our lives. If it is what we want to be, then we could just stay in our shell and be miserably forgotten. But if it is love we choose, then there is the promise of a new life. The joy in being able to share that life with someone and the hope of finding something beautiful and keeping it forever.

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a letter for you

Posted on Wednesday, July 15, 2009 by charmie

Dear Chum,

I know you will not read this, but I want everyone to know that I LOVE YOU with all my heart and my soul. You make me feel like I can fly. I'm in love with you even though we are thousand miles away. I am sorry sometimes for misunderstanding, it's a part of the process of our relationship.

You have imperfections just like everyone else, but that is why i love you. You make me laugh, you me happy, you make me cry. I truly could not live my life without having you to talk and to confide in. You are my friend, my bestfriend, my confidante and i thank you very much for that. You know more about me than anyone, you know my when I get mad, you know my thoughts and you know my heart inside and out. You have a way of making my heart skip a beat and I want you and the whole world to know that I Love You, Chum and hopefully we will be forever together. Thank you for showing me what kind of love all women deserve.

Love Always,

Chum(Issa)

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RELATIONSHIP

Posted on Tuesday, July 14, 2009 by charmie

Love is real, love is contagious, love hurts. love feels wonderful, love changes us. Love is like fire in its spark and appetite. - it came a heart of a person who fall in love. And every relationship we encounter o we enter there is a great love behind it. Relationship between parents and children, husband and wife, girl friend and boyfriend. Relationship with your brothers and sisters, with your friends and relatives. And even in my blogging, i have relationship with the readers and myself and all of these because of LOVE.

My sister used to tell me when we were a young girl you are wasting your time in writing , "ayaw mo ako tulungan dito"hehehe...I love to write romantic stories. di pa natatapos ang isa , may nabubuo naman sa utak ko. Naisip ko pa nga minsan ipadla ko sa "maalaala mo kaya ang stories ko" But since I don't have time and nobody appreciate what I did. I stop...My passion in writing helps me to know myself better, it lessen my boredome now, it lessen my anger. This is my outlet to be happy, revealing myself what is inside my heart.

If we have no love, we are nothing at all. Everyone of us lives because of LOVE. So, the relationship between our parents are great and pure for anything else. Just like GOD's love for us, inspite of our weaknesses and disobedience. The love of the parents for their children have no limits. They will do everything for us, they sacrifice us just to give us a good future. Kaya yong ibang mga magulang nasa abroad, to give their family a good life. They said, a mother can keep 10 children but a daughter/son cannot keep a mother/father. Pwde kalimutan ng anak ang magulang pero di makalimutan ng magulang ang anak.

The most critical and complicated relationship is the relationship between husband and wife. In my point of view this relationship has a lot to ask, a lot to look forward, senstive and you should be sensible in every aspect of your marriage life. You should need to understand the needs of your partner. You should have respect,love, trust and the greatest of these is LOVE. As we all know, before you/we got married, we are all familiar how marriage going on. We have the idea about it. This is not a game, not a joke. But I know someone ,she said LOVE is just a word if you have nothing to eat , love will fade. Especially if a man doesn't make a living. Love will get easily fly over the window. She said in marriage , mostly a woman should give more than she receive. A capable wife is always there to attend to the needs of the family. A man should provide the needs of the family. Whatever problems occurs in the family settle first before going to bed. There is no perfect marriage is how you deal with it.

The Lord correct those he loves, as parents correct a child of whom they are proud. God has many ways to help us, to save our soul. All we have to do is listen attentively.

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my wedding gown to be

Posted on Monday, July 13, 2009 by charmie

After a long search of wedding gowns , I found this design. Will yougive more ideas about wedding gowns. Where I could find some wedding gown rental/entourage in Davao City.

choices # 1

Choices # 2

Choices # 3

Give me ideas what suits me. I like the best choices # 3.

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my crazy thoughts of wedding plan

Posted on Friday, July 10, 2009 by charmie

When my boyfriend (chatmate boyfriend) ask me "will you marry me? , with no hesitant and doubts I said "YES" crazy, isn't it??? I haven't meet him in person but I agree. Since then , I know I am engaged with the stranger.

I started making plans, since both of us working overseas. (crazyness) but what's harm in planning a small wedding? People say that little girls dream about their wedding. When I think about having my wedding with a room full of people staring at me as I walk by in a giant dress and my groom waiting to take me in the altar. I really cringe and excited. You couldn't imagine the feeling but I supposed everybody feels the same.

For the past months I got engaged "kuno" LOL.. (the fact that I haven't meet him) I have a mixed feeling. Excited but I am frightened, frightened maybe because I haven't meet him personally or scared because I'm going to enter another chapter of my life. Scared as well that if I will meet him my feelings change and I will say "no he is not the right man for me" or vice versa.

Now we are arranging our wedding but what if the time comes, as I said earlier "the meeting" I am scared what he will say or I do. I am really starting to think of a huge mistake. I keep asking to him if we are doing the right thing but he assured me that It won't happen what I think.

As people say getting married is not a game. It is not like food you eat that if you don't like the taste you could spit it out. It is a lifetime commitment. And one woman told me, wedding is just a wedding. What's important is right after the wedding. Started a new life and even you know your fiancee for a long time but you didn't live together is not the same. You only know a person if you live with him/her. You have to consider in every decision you make. And even you have the brilliant ideas make him feel that is his idea. So lot to give more than you receive. For as long he could provide me what I need. As long he make a living, for me that's the important thing.

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i thought I'm not happy , can I call it quits.

Posted on Thursday, July 9, 2009 by charmie

Me and my boyfriend(chatmate) used to argue with a nonsense things. I thought I'm not happy anymore with him. But the moment we talk the excitement is there, I didn't know what's this feeling all about.:):) probably because we haven't seen personally for almost 2 years. He is a very sulky person and most of the time I made him upset. Every time we do fight I goes to say, it isn't healthy for you? maybe we need a break. I need a space or let's call it quits. Long distance relationship is hard to build. This problem always arises for both of us when we started doubting with our own judgement and lack of self confidence. He always doubted me and it's irritating. And i always think of quitting. hehehe....But the fact is that it is OK to give up sometimes. It's hard to tell that especially when pain is real but there is something a liberating about a fresh start again... LOL...It is a chance to create more effortless and compatible relationship. I take some advices also from my friends, and elderly people who's also in a relationship. And they said, before I call it quits, i should mull over my options. A short call off could help,as might a calm and controlled conversation about the things i can and can't, or will and won't change. But never accept second best. I will develop a tendency to do that the rest of my life. Fight on as long as I know there is something worth fighting for.

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how I really feel?

Posted on Wednesday, July 8, 2009 by charmie

I never really knew you
You were just another friend
But when I got to know you,
I let my heart unbend.

I couldn’t help past memories
that would only make me cry
I had to forget my first love
and give love another try.

So I’ve fallen in love with you
and I’ll never let you go.
I love you more than anyone
I just had to let you know.

And if you ever wonder why
I don’t know what I’ll say
But I’ll never stop loving you
each and every day.

My feelings for you will never change
Just know my feelings are true
Just remember one thing
I Love You!

I read this poem and it really, really the same what I feel. So I decided to post it here.

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my confindate is my inspiration

Posted on Friday, July 3, 2009 by charmie

It's not easy to maintain a long distance relationship especially you haven't meet him/her. What I'm trying to say her is like online dating and you build relationship over the internet. You build a relationship to a stranger, love him/her like you've seen in person and making plans that seems you are a perfect partner. Like me and my boyfriend,we built only our relationship over the internet now for 19 months.. It works alright but sometimes I cant avoid doubting, can't avoid not to expect too much from all our plans we've made, especially when we have argument. Arguments made me confused if I made a right decision. He is very sulky person and sensitive and in that case I don't know how to manage him. Every time he feels like that makes me irritated. But to make our relationship run smoothly my old confidante married for 68 years told me more often that if I want a good harmonious relationship, I should bite my tongue. You should give more than you receive. Makes them feel that they are right all the time. After all they realize that you are right and they ask an apology to you. Talking to an old 91 years old, I realize she is right, what harm just to do the right thing and it end up good one.

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essential guide to find your own true love

by charmie

hey guys want to share you this quiz on how do we really tell if he is just not into to you..how to stop wasting time on a DUD( definitely unworkable dude) Just give your boyfriend one point for each of this 16 characteristics he exhibit...

After 19 months of strongly steady.... haven't meet him yet:

Eager to see you 1
Reluctant to leave you
Wants regular consistent contact, asks for dates 1
Interested in you and your life 1
Wants to be helpful
Is verbally and physically affectionate
Wants to be romantic and sexual with you 1
Texts, emails or calls regularly 1
Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date others 1
If you are dating other men--willing to hang in there
Becoming more attentive and loving over time
Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughts 1
Becoming more open to sharing his living space 1
Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members. 1
Saying he loves you 1
Saying he wants a future with you 1

TOTAL = 11 - he just may be the one , yeheyyyyy!!!!

Please be really honest with yourself as you rate your guy. When in doubt, ask your closest friends to help you. If your man has a score of 4 or less, it probably indicates that he is just not that into you. If he gets 5-10 points the dude may have possibilities. Eleven (11) or more means he just may be the One. Look for more of these qualities over time to make a clearer assessment.

If your guy has a low score, you do not need to cut him off right away. A guy who really is into you will stay the course and win you.

Bottom line: if you want to find the One, look for a man who provides regular and consistent contact that gets better over time. You should find yourself continually surprised at how he fills your needs to be chosen, appreciated, romanced and celebrated for who you are. Envision this kind of love and choose guys who are that into you.