Love is in the Air

my crazy thoughts of wedding plan

Posted on Friday, July 10, 2009 by charmie

When my boyfriend (chatmate boyfriend) ask me "will you marry me? , with no hesitant and doubts I said "YES" crazy, isn't it??? I haven't meet him in person but I agree. Since then , I know I am engaged with the stranger.

I started making plans, since both of us working overseas. (crazyness) but what's harm in planning a small wedding? People say that little girls dream about their wedding. When I think about having my wedding with a room full of people staring at me as I walk by in a giant dress and my groom waiting to take me in the altar. I really cringe and excited. You couldn't imagine the feeling but I supposed everybody feels the same.

For the past months I got engaged "kuno" LOL.. (the fact that I haven't meet him) I have a mixed feeling. Excited but I am frightened, frightened maybe because I haven't meet him personally or scared because I'm going to enter another chapter of my life. Scared as well that if I will meet him my feelings change and I will say "no he is not the right man for me" or vice versa.

Now we are arranging our wedding but what if the time comes, as I said earlier "the meeting" I am scared what he will say or I do. I am really starting to think of a huge mistake. I keep asking to him if we are doing the right thing but he assured me that It won't happen what I think.

As people say getting married is not a game. It is not like food you eat that if you don't like the taste you could spit it out. It is a lifetime commitment. And one woman told me, wedding is just a wedding. What's important is right after the wedding. Started a new life and even you know your fiancee for a long time but you didn't live together is not the same. You only know a person if you live with him/her. You have to consider in every decision you make. And even you have the brilliant ideas make him feel that is his idea. So lot to give more than you receive. For as long he could provide me what I need. As long he make a living, for me that's the important thing.

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i thought I'm not happy , can I call it quits.

Posted on Thursday, July 9, 2009 by charmie

Me and my boyfriend(chatmate) used to argue with a nonsense things. I thought I'm not happy anymore with him. But the moment we talk the excitement is there, I didn't know what's this feeling all about.:):) probably because we haven't seen personally for almost 2 years. He is a very sulky person and most of the time I made him upset. Every time we do fight I goes to say, it isn't healthy for you? maybe we need a break. I need a space or let's call it quits. Long distance relationship is hard to build. This problem always arises for both of us when we started doubting with our own judgement and lack of self confidence. He always doubted me and it's irritating. And i always think of quitting. hehehe....But the fact is that it is OK to give up sometimes. It's hard to tell that especially when pain is real but there is something a liberating about a fresh start again... LOL...It is a chance to create more effortless and compatible relationship. I take some advices also from my friends, and elderly people who's also in a relationship. And they said, before I call it quits, i should mull over my options. A short call off could help,as might a calm and controlled conversation about the things i can and can't, or will and won't change. But never accept second best. I will develop a tendency to do that the rest of my life. Fight on as long as I know there is something worth fighting for.

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how I really feel?

Posted on Wednesday, July 8, 2009 by charmie

I never really knew you
You were just another friend
But when I got to know you,
I let my heart unbend.

I couldn’t help past memories
that would only make me cry
I had to forget my first love
and give love another try.

So I’ve fallen in love with you
and I’ll never let you go.
I love you more than anyone
I just had to let you know.

And if you ever wonder why
I don’t know what I’ll say
But I’ll never stop loving you
each and every day.

My feelings for you will never change
Just know my feelings are true
Just remember one thing
I Love You!

I read this poem and it really, really the same what I feel. So I decided to post it here.

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my confindate is my inspiration

Posted on Friday, July 3, 2009 by charmie

It's not easy to maintain a long distance relationship especially you haven't meet him/her. What I'm trying to say her is like online dating and you build relationship over the internet. You build a relationship to a stranger, love him/her like you've seen in person and making plans that seems you are a perfect partner. Like me and my boyfriend,we built only our relationship over the internet now for 19 months.. It works alright but sometimes I cant avoid doubting, can't avoid not to expect too much from all our plans we've made, especially when we have argument. Arguments made me confused if I made a right decision. He is very sulky person and sensitive and in that case I don't know how to manage him. Every time he feels like that makes me irritated. But to make our relationship run smoothly my old confidante married for 68 years told me more often that if I want a good harmonious relationship, I should bite my tongue. You should give more than you receive. Makes them feel that they are right all the time. After all they realize that you are right and they ask an apology to you. Talking to an old 91 years old, I realize she is right, what harm just to do the right thing and it end up good one.

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essential guide to find your own true love

by charmie

hey guys want to share you this quiz on how do we really tell if he is just not into to you..how to stop wasting time on a DUD( definitely unworkable dude) Just give your boyfriend one point for each of this 16 characteristics he exhibit...

After 19 months of strongly steady.... haven't meet him yet:

Eager to see you 1
Reluctant to leave you
Wants regular consistent contact, asks for dates 1
Interested in you and your life 1
Wants to be helpful
Is verbally and physically affectionate
Wants to be romantic and sexual with you 1
Texts, emails or calls regularly 1
Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date others 1
If you are dating other men--willing to hang in there
Becoming more attentive and loving over time
Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughts 1
Becoming more open to sharing his living space 1
Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members. 1
Saying he loves you 1
Saying he wants a future with you 1

TOTAL = 11 - he just may be the one , yeheyyyyy!!!!

Please be really honest with yourself as you rate your guy. When in doubt, ask your closest friends to help you. If your man has a score of 4 or less, it probably indicates that he is just not that into you. If he gets 5-10 points the dude may have possibilities. Eleven (11) or more means he just may be the One. Look for more of these qualities over time to make a clearer assessment.

If your guy has a low score, you do not need to cut him off right away. A guy who really is into you will stay the course and win you.

Bottom line: if you want to find the One, look for a man who provides regular and consistent contact that gets better over time. You should find yourself continually surprised at how he fills your needs to be chosen, appreciated, romanced and celebrated for who you are. Envision this kind of love and choose guys who are that into you.