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on our simple plan...

Posted on Monday, March 8, 2010 by charmie

Sounds odd for everybody but me and my boyfriend "fiancee plan to settle down by the time we will be there (Philippines). Everything happen merely on the internet but it seems like we are close for each other. read this. Our only lifeline with this relationship is our computer and our phone. Nothing is impossible I think if you both interested and make an effort with the relationship you have. I agree maintaining a long distance relationship is very difficult. Some of my friends like Long Distance Relationship. They said , the less you talk and see each other, the less you have fights and arguments. Is it true? Here are some Do's and Dont's.

Probably, my friends, followers if I have (yes, I did have) hehehe!!! are scared reading with my simple revelation about wedding plans. Why? I hasn't meet the person, and we plan the wedding we wanted to be. With this society or world , I supposed it's not new especially those OFW , like me spending most of their time with their job to earn money while working abroad.  While working they are sneaking around in dating websites to meet the partner of their life. I'm one of them hehehe and if they found their perfect partner they thought , some plane to meet first , and some plans to prepare a wedding and when they'll meet it's ended up in the Altar of Matrimony.. You might like the story of Alex and Ems. 


Going back on our simple plan...


We want only a simple wedding yet elegant and memorable. A fairy tale theme,that match our destiny, with turquoise blue fuchsia pink motif. hmmmm. 


I posted the inspirational board of the motif...


 

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loving you is stupidity

Posted on Tuesday, March 2, 2010 by charmie

Yes,  I admitted it I've been stupid loving him. 



Before, I am officially engaged with him, we've been through a lot of troubles that almost end up our relationship. He did things that made me angry , upset and seems for me it was the end of the world. After confessing me about his age, the relationship wasn't so flowery. Family problems arose from both sides. I always wanted him to listen to me but he wasn't there for me. Perhaps he was tired of listening my own, which the fact he had his own and he cannot shared to me because I have a lot on my plate. I remember just one night he was burst with tears and cried about his problems and I felt guilty myself that I never listen to him. I was so selfish. We let time goes by not talking with each other. I was busy solving my own, and when the time I talked with him I was always being rational. I never understand, and I started doubting all the time with his love for me.


By the time, I was not there for him and was so disturb with my feelings and settling the problems with my family. He found a friend, who could understand him. A friend that he can share his problems. A friend who listen with him. They end to a mutual understanding and I bound to caught all the messages he sent with that girl. And it happened that I know the girl who knew that I am his girlfriend and she tried to be friend with me.I confronted him about the messages and then he was so angry about it. I don't have the right to interfere his private property (its true). He told me, I'm hurting myself dahil kahit san daw sunod ako ng sunod. When I have an instinct I cannot set and do nothing at all. I always do something until I find out what's going on. I had sleepless night, I cannot eat at the same time I was so upset with my family. I used to drink a glass of wine in the night to make me sleep. I cried and my phone bills got bigger just to call him and started crying. I suffered that stupid feelings of mine for 6 weeks and I realized, who he is  He was so lucky to have me. He his ugly, Lol... he has a bad odor , he didn't brush his teeth.. hehehe.. I keep thinking negative thoughts to make me feel better. He don't deserve my tears, my love. It was very had for me to talk with him, which I did and let him choose. I was afraid then but I have to accept the fact. He is not mine. But I was wrong, he was angry with me, and said You know that I will choose you over her. I was so flattered and felt happy but deep inside my heart, GOD give me a sign if he is telling the truth. If he really loves me, then he have to prove it to me. But be hurry and make sure that when he comes back to me I'm still there, otherwise he cannot find me anymore. Just be sure that the person he is going to replace me is more than I could offer with him, without baggage(walang anak). That was the last word I told him and I was contemplating the happy days we shared together over the internet. The plans and the dreams.  I was in the process of recovering and healing the wounds, I received a message from the girl telling me,  "he choose you, you won , just take care of him he is a good man. It was only a game between me and him, I have a child and I am going to get married with the father of my child. I am sincerely sorry, sis and I hope one day you will forgive me. Belated merry Christmas and Happy Ne year"


I don't know what to say, I never replied her until now, and he asked also an apology to me. Telling me he cannot bear to lose me anymore. The relationship is back to normal and officially he both an engagement ring and proposed with me again.


I once a stupid but because I love him so much and the pain is unbearable to lose him, and just one click of my thumb is gone. In relationship I always give chances, second, third but not in major things. I think weather we like it or not , if we fall in love we cannot hold our feelings. It's easy to say (don't let your heart rule your mind, but let you mind rule your heart )than done. On the other hand, we never knew a person until we don't live with them. There are couple who been out together for many years but after they got married finish on the story. There are also known each other for a few months and have a happy ending. Relationship or shall I call it marriage is a matter of luck. It it turn out alright then you must be clever.



I hope I made my right choice and decision with out regrets and hesitation.

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on being here and there...

Posted on Sunday, February 28, 2010 by charmie

While I'm working this morning , I came up the thought of my relationship with him. I just can't believe how I put up with this this 2 years LDR like cats and dogs. I don't know if it is normal for a couple when they are far from each other , they always fight with nonsense things? If he is getting mad or upset , he ignores me sometimes it took 3 days before we become friends again and then back to normal. But I can't remember when was the last time he never upset with me. Like this one, blogging is one of my new hobby and he can't barely see me online and he gets upset and mad with me. And when I'm online he is attending somethings, and we didn't talk to each other.

Its preferable to do my way, and let him do with his way. It's difficult to put up specially he is younger than me, I am so pathetic to think about it. It's easier for me if I'm the first one to approach rather than waiting him when he will going to talk with me.

At the end of it all, man is just a man. It's easier to flirt with them, give the best shot to make them cool and give responses of what you want. Even of hectic schedules, we should send them sweet messages like e-card emails, text messages of call them. I usually send text messages and let him know what I am doing, what I feel, and most of the time in the evening we talk in the messenger told him what I am thinking while I am working. Or sometimes, I usually make slides show or browse some vedio music over you tube and post it on his facebook. and send him message that I posted something on his profile. That usually I does..


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on my feelings and thought photo

Posted on Saturday, February 27, 2010 by charmie


"What if funky, confusing, gray, lonely days were just part of a "system" that, in turn, created bright, rich, happy, friendly days? What if they were just meant to give deeper elements of your creativity a rest? What if they were deliberately crafted holidays, of a sort, devised by your inner psyche to relieve you from the pressure of artificial expectations?
Would you still bemoan them, wonder what's wrong with you, or fear that they'll never end?
Or, would they kind of tickle you pink?"
- The Universe [via Notes from the Universe]


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smarty, bitchy wise

Posted on Thursday, February 25, 2010 by charmie

I'm in my 2 years with my boyfriend "fiancee" only a relationship that connect us through our modern technology. I am reaping the reward and I am safe of any danger now. It was difficult at the start and the more the relationship grow , I found out some secrets and lies. I am just being smart to knew it. It wasn't so terrible as I told you earlier in this blogs.

 

Just always remember that the people you are dealing with are not  (not less, not more) real people in your everyday offline life. Be smart, just treat them as you wish to be treated online. Recognize that others  online not necessarily treat you as well as you treat them. Not everyone on the Net share will share your values or your sensitivities. If you are a frequent chat room addict hehehe, choose your place or groups. Because there are some people using abusive bad words in the chat room. Choose the group where you feel comfortable. And keep in mind that there will have a possibility to develop a strong relationship online when you are a frequent chatters. A relationship that are different in quality and character from anything you've experience in real. And beware  that people online frequently as I said, lie about their identity. They give beyond giving false name to go with an online ID. The more ID they have, the more people they can deceit off. And remember once again that NET also littered with people who have spent a very long time getting to know someone "intimately" only to find they've been mislead. Physical presence, social context and everyday experience are the missing things having online relationship. If you don't remember , I will reminded you that the person you get to know online is not completely on the picture. But then, be aware still of falling in love and giving your personal details like bank account, visa card number etc..Think of it now whom those people.hehehe!!!:)



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echoes of our Hearts

Posted on Thursday, July 23, 2009 by charmie


Sometimes we close our eyes and just listen to the echoes of our hearts. we all fall in love, and there are times that we love so much, we lose ourselves in our own emotions, and we feel that way more often. we wonder why there are love that grows so warm and there are love that grows cold too. we would start to search for and try to find where love has gone wrong but in the end we find ourselves where we started. We cannot question love, when it has its own reason. Love will always been silent, mysterious and deeply profound.

Many if us believe that love is forever, that love never dies, only to be disillusioned in the end. When we find our hands empty and our hearts longing we mistakenly have looked love as a need to be fulfilled. But love is a gift given to us, we should not hold it in our hands for we may never find the strength to let it go when we decides to leave. we should only embrace its warmth and grow while it lasts and then freely open our arms when its time to say goodbye.

When we fall in love with someone we don't want that feeling to end, for we wanted to be. We pray that love would stay and grow in our hearts but if it doesn't then we should never let our lives taken by it, for life should not end where heartaches begin. There's always a reason why we have to move on, when we have to say goodbye to the feelings we wanted to stay forever. Let us not wave our hands with a heavy heart, for love will have to set it wings free and find a place to where it belongs. We may have lost to the echoes of our hearts,but we will hear that feelings resounding silently forever, then will know that it have never left us for the good that we have become because love will always stay, it will always be there, reminding us that we should be thankful and happy not because we have lost love but because once in our life that feeling leave in our hearts and make us happy.

from a source of joe d' mango love notes


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Tragedy of Love

by charmie

They say that only time can heal the wounds of a broken heart. That time makes it easier to accept the loss of the people we love.

It is a chain that all of us go through, falling in love, getting hurt, getting hurt and vowing not to love again, promising not to love again and becoming miserable all our lives. It‘s not easy getting up on our feet after a crippling fall but there is no other way but to stand up and move on. Nobody wants to become unhappy all his life. All of us know how love can bring magic into our lives. Have you ever realized how good it felt waking up in the morning knowing that somewhere out there, there’s a person also thinking of you and feels exactly the way you do? Doesn’t it feel good looking forward to being that person and spending memorable moments with him? Love brings joy beyond compare and that warm and sparking glow in each of us. Love brings us to the top of the world where we can conquer just about any obstacle that may come along our way. It is a great feeling love is. There is probably nothing else in this world that can compare to this. There may be many of us who feel that love passed us by and finding someone we can share our life with seems to be such a remote possibility. We watch trains go by as time swiftly drifts away from us. We may be in control of our lives but we felt somewhat helpless in our relationships. There is nothing permanent in this world and not even those we cherished would be with us forever. There is no guarantee that comes with loving. It is always a risk getting involved with someone but it is a risk that we have to take if we want to find real happiness for there is no gain without pain. There is no permanent without commitment and there is no lasting love without constant sacrifice. The tragedy of love is in getting hurt. The tragedy of getting hurt is in not wanting to love again and tragedy of not wanting to love again is in being alone all of our lives. If it is what we want to be, then we could just stay in our shell and be miserably forgotten. But if it is love we choose, then there is the promise of a new life. The joy in being able to share that life with someone and the hope of finding something beautiful and keeping it forever.


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